When you think about becoming a homemaker, what comes to mind?
Housewife, homebody, stay at home mum, house work…? Yes, I’ve often put those all together too! Being currently unmarried, I started to call myself a future housewife, but I actually want to take hold of the title ‘homemaker.’
I think that it’s time for traditional values for women to be celebrated and not seen as being less than, when it can be your life’s purpose.
The first passage that comes to mind is this,” I have learned to be satisfied in any circumstance. 12–13 I know what it means to lack, and I know what it means to experience overwhelming abundance. For I’m trained in the secret of overcoming all things, whether in fullness or in hunger.” Philippians 4:11-13 The Passion Translation
If you feel called to be a homemaker, then learn to be content in it whilst you are single, and you will be able to build your skills whether you get married or not.
It’s about finding happiness inside of who you are as a woman, and not letting that be found in titles that people place on you, or what you do, but in the fact that you are a woman.
A homemaker is someone who manages a home. You live in a home, and that requires management, so you are a homemaker.
Here are a few ways that I prepare for my future role as a housewife, whilst being a homemaker:
- Check in to see if this is a true desire – if you could do, be, have anything what would that look like? There are many ways to do traditional and Godly relationships so check in to see if you truly want to be a homemaker. Do what really sets your soul on fire and makes you come alive.
- Stay the course – once you know your calling, you are able to fulfill your role with confidence. Everyone around you will not agree with your lifestyle, and will ask what you do all day (to be answered later).
- Create a routine that works for you – make a list of household chores and projects, Bible study, prayer time, dreaming and journaling, creativity, baking and cooking.
- Learn a new skill – take time in your schedule to learn something. Whether that’s taking a local belly dancing class, taking up knitting or studying online.
- Manage your money – create a budget that includes dream or luxury items, know where all of your money is going and also dream of creative ways to receive money.
- Become involved in philanthropy – volunteer with a local church/charity, start your own venture, get involved with missions.
- Be a lovely host – invite people to your home. It’s an excellent opportunity to be nurturing, providing a lovely and warm atmosphere and a chance to try out a new recipe that you’ve perfected!
- Add personal touches to your home – purchase items that bring you joy, so that your house is somewhere that you actually enjoy being in. Think of creative ideas and touches like buying flowers for your home. Pretty candles, plugin air fresheners and fresh linen all make such a difference!
- Create a meal plan – look at items you’d like to make or even get better at and plan for them. There are a few dishes that I’m working on, and can’t wait to perfect in time for my husband!
- Ask, seek knock – ask around and seek the answers that you’re looking for. I’m not a natural organiser, cleaner or a cook. However, since I’ve felt this is strongly my calling, I’ve noticed the desire to be better increasing.
Being around women who feel the same way, has been extremely beneficial to me. Even without that, you need to have the confidence and the trust in your personal choices as a woman.
Not everyone will agree with your lifestyle choice, but know that you do not need to please everyone.
I feel so much more fulfilled in my life since I embraced this part of who I am…and you will find that the men in your life prefer a woman who is authentic in all areas of her life.
What do you think? I love hearing your thoughts!